Taking Pieces Away
By: Jon David
Layered statements part of a template of something really real
Trying to be honest and express what I truly feel
Made the mistake of trying to be what made others feel
Part of something missing in their fabric time can’t heal
There being stitched together by mistakes they can’t help but make
Taking pieces away trying to look for an escape from all the design flaws one feels is beyond repair
But they reach for customer service to only believe there’s no one their
Waiting on the other line trying to find answers that are already here
Fear beyond their scope make vision something sort of unclear
Made the mistakes of letting heart ache change the way things appear
Skeptical of all that lies before you making up your mind to bind it to you
Desperate enough to find what is mined within in you
But never choosing to find what can bring you life without food
The 365 Life Shift
Uncapping The Obvious As Lady Bosses In Business
By: Mareka Haynes
Our dress, our walk and our domination!
It’s 2021 Y’all! Women are rising to the occasion whilst men watch on….Some are fabulous at cheering us on in our dominance, in our respective industries, others? Well, it’s been a chore to watch at our consistency and know that they could have done more. But, I told you so!
Women have a fabulous way of staying sophisticated in some of the most drab situations. They have taught themselves that broke, sick or rich – image is everything! This may or may not be a bad thing, as it’s in the lowest of moments when the Biggest opportunities present themselves.
Again, women were made to be resilient. Check us during childbirth, family loss, job loss and other situations where others result in merely making it. There is something about bouncing back that gives a woman a thrill, an excitement that no one else could provide. We were made to conquer, yet, we still need to reserve our hunger and exchange it for humility when giving men the respect they deserve as earthly Kings.
If dominance was a person, it would be a woman! Whew! Chile, if you only know the small extremities that many women face daily. Some from very young ages, others only when they have reached adult stages. Nonetheless, dominating in any area calls for patience, resilience, consistent motivation in your spirit, mind and body and you are willing to cheer on yourself even if you don’t have a huge pack of girlfriends doing so for you. In movie terms, I believe Angela Bassett has successfully dominated the movie screen representation as a strong woman and held her own consistently.
Note To Self
Take these wonderful examples of strong women and habits to light the way of your own success. Your vision is HUGE, your possibilities are Endless and your play area is vast and wide!
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You are Enough
By: Patrice Rivers aka Lyrical Passion
What is the definition of the phrase “You can’t?”
Does that even exist or should it exist in the dictionary of negative phrases?
What do you mean I can’t?
I will and can!
No matter how many times the world or people tries to knock you down and bury you more than six feet
The revolutionary of the man who always says “You can’t”
Two words that will remain soaked in our memories
The one and only who became our enemy
A negative vibe that is stuck in our soul ready to explode
What type of world do we live in where possibilities become vacant realities?
Or opportunities that become false tales?
You can be anything you set your mind to and do the same job just as good
Girlfriend if you want to create your own lane and show the world that you got this
Then go for it without all the negativity and being on all the naysayer’s list
Chin up high
Head tilted towards the heavenly skies
I’m a person walking on water
Invisible woman I am an undercover disguise
Create your own dreams and opportunities and allow nothing or no one to stop you dead in your tracks
Some people will start to hate and some just don’t know how to be happy or know how to act
This world can be a cruel to the heart and mind
Depression still eating and taking lives
Mental health isn’t a joke so why do people continue to poke?
Why continue to play with our emotions just like riding on a deadly roller coaster?
We have feelings and we can dream and visualize as much as we want
A strong man or woman will continue to rise from the burnt ashes taking their rightful place in this world mixed with divided frustrations
Under a stressful nation
Stop trying to please people who wants to be people pleasers
You got this in the bag without putting on a show or being a teaser
When you feel like you aren’t enough and try to do things to gain people’s attention
Realizing later down the line that your mind and soul is now disturbed
A terrible redemption.
So why do we continue to beat ourselves up to fit into society where sometimes we are wanted
Egos are boosted all the time
Don’t believe me?
Ask social media because people are seeking the validation of others
But really it’s going to start messing with minds or another
Remember You Are Enough!
By: Johnathan Brantley
The enemy of progress is rejection of correction making this adjustment is the key to reflection knowing what to change
You may feel it in your chest as a tightness you can’t explain something real so surreal like it is imprinted on your brain
Start where the head is and move to the feet change your direction an do not repeat feel your soul as it gets set free
From the pole in the sole of the tamed mans feet walk with weighted steps to the freedom he seek
Running to place where bound men speak free of the chains of the ways they should be
A Positive Future
A democracy, by definition, is a government for the people, voted by the people to elect governing representatives. When I was initially approached to write a piece regarding the 2020 presidential election, I was hesitant. Before now, although my political views are obvious if you follow me on social media (IG: @phenomenally_jay and @fallinluvwithyourselffirst), I have never discussed politics or religion in detail. 2020 was an unprecedented year. The American people were hit harder than anything I have witnessed in my adult years. Covid-19 remains undefeated as we entered a new year, 2021. As an African American blogger and author-writer, I feel obliged to use my platform to do my due diligence for MY culture.
“ I pledge to every citizen of our land that I will be president for all Americans, and this is so important to me. For those who have chosen not to support me in the past, of which there were a few people, I’m reaching out to you for your guidance and your help so that we can work together and unify our great country.” (Donald Trump, President-elect in 2016; CNN)
Donald Trump failed the American people in many ways, as a result of his ego. In a democracy where the American people should feel free, Trump spent the vast majority of his political career raining havoc on the American people. Donald Trump prioritized to undo many of America’s favorite President, Barack Obama’s policies within the first 100 days of being in office. To put it simple, Donald Trump exceeded to implement many policies than any other president in the history of the United States within his first 100 days, many of which were favorable to him as a businessman; not as President to the American people. On January 20, 2016, Donald Trump signed an executive order to tear down the Affordable Care Act put in place by President Barack Obama for the American people. Ironically, Donald Trump spent his holiday golfing when the American people needed a President. As the clock ran out as many Americans struggled to feed their families, Donald Trump finally signed a Covid relief package in late December that sat on his desk for days. Many American people suffered and struggled through the holidays as he “worked tirelessly”, vacationing. During this short time, many Americans lost benefits that helped them survive 2020. Millions of jobs were lost, hundreds of thousands of Americans are dead and we still are lost. From immigrants being targeted, children separated from their parents to revoking contractors from discriminating against employees on the basis of sexual orientation or identity, gay rights; Trump has never shown a genuine intention to protect the American people. No president is perfect, however, it is in my opinion that Donald Trump was the worst President the United States history. The Trump term as President was very mentally and emotionally draining.
Fast forward to November 2020, the American people fought for our democracy. I felt a weight being lifted. I began to see a positive future for the United States knowing the incoming Biden-Harris administration seeks to heal our broken nation. History was once again made when the people voted to take back our democracy by voting President- elect Joe Biden and Vice President- elect, Kamala Harris. Yes, Kamala Harris will be the first woman of color to hold her position in office but as she stated during her acceptance speech, she will not be the last. Leaders empower, leaders care, leaders listen.
A day I will never forget, January 6, 2021. Our nations Capital was attacked by self proclaimed patriots to take back an election the President encouraged was stolen. One of the most secure locations in the United States was attacked by violent rioters as Congress proceeded count electoral votes to validate Joe Biden’s win. Windows were shattered, lives were lost, members in the Senate chamber were hiding under seats and even evacuated for their safety as the riot continued.
Rewind to May 2020 to the Black Lives Matter peaceful protest in response to the murder of George Floyd in Washington, DC. People of color were met with chemical irritants and lines of police in full riot gear. No protestors penetrated the grounds. We protested to fight police brutality not because we were sore losers. Donald Trump encouraged his group of loyal supporters to march to our nations Capitol to “take back” the country. How they were able to invade secure areas and endanger many members of the Capitol is still being investigated and is mind boggling to me.
January 13, 2021, President Donald Trump is impeached for the second time.
The violent riot mob that stormed our nations Capitol and the Black Lives Matter protesters who seek equality are not the same. WE are not the same.
I am extremely optimistic about the incoming administration. For four years our country has been divided. Now, we have a President for all people. The People’s President. I see light at the end of the tunnel. I am grateful to have witnessed this period with my children. It’s has not only been educational, but has given them the motivation and to take a stand for justice and equality.
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How I Found My True Love
By: James Dean Rivera
How I found my true love wasn’t easy. It took a very long period of time to find my true love. I had been in many tumultuous relationships. Many which only made it out of a year if I was lucky. It always seemed to follow the same pattern: Either they had no job, they did have a job but did not have to advance or they had no job, multiple kids and expected their significant other to take care of them. At first I did not mind this because they seemed to be fulfilling my needs sexually. However I began to realize as I got older that sex wasn’t everything.
Also, I began to realize that there was more to relationships than just intercourse. There had to be love, commitment, setting goals and building a life together. I was never going to get that with anyone I had previously went out with. I failed and failed many times in what turned out to be a conquest, my journey to finding love. But I did not give up hope that my true love would be waiting in the wings. I envisioned her being over 30, no kids never married, loved to travel and was career and goal oriented. I highly believed that it would manifest.
My friend Ana whom I’ve known since I was 16 and she was 18 referred me to the Tinder app. Me personally I was not partial to any dating sites, honestly I’m still not. However when she showed me her profile and I saw the results she was getting, I thought why not give it a try? I even asked her assistance on guiding me through the process. Here I was thinking it would be a long process which I was willing to be patient for. However, that would soon be finished much faster than I expected. Enter Nina.
Nina had her own social media business called Nina Online . She still does. She was in her 30s, never married had children wanted to travel. Although she already been around the world and has lived in Thailand, traveled to Australia and Myanmar, she never had a significant other to travel with. Well she was just in luck cause she was just what I was looking for. Sure there may have been a few other tinder dates before her but nothing came out of It at all. Nina was the one I had my eyes set on. And it was on August 18th 2016 where we met in person!!!!!
We went out to this Asian Fusion restaurant called Penthouse 808. I gave her cally lilies as it was her 35th birthday coming up in 2 days. She had on this beautiful red and black flower dress. She looked so beautiful with her hair done. She was so happy and smiling. I was infatuated by her beauty and her personality. I only knew her for a few hours but I was already in love. Little did I know she felt the same about me.
We had went to the movies in Manhattan to see suicide squad. Then I dropped her off by Penn Station. She had a long ride home for she lived in Islip Long island at the time. In Suffolk County almost 3 hours away from Brooklyn and almost 2 hours away from Manhattan. But before her scheduled train arrived, she kissed me on the lips for maybe 15 to 20 seconds. A woman making the first move on me. That had never happened before. However I appreciated the moment and I was looking forward to more dates with her.
After a few more dates, we became official. On September 11th to be exact. Weve been together ever since. We moved in with each other on December 2017. We’ve traveled around the world to Dominican Republic, Italy, Greece, Montreal, Puerto Rico even London although that was 8 hours layover in the airport on the way to Greece. We cultivated such a great relationship of love trust and support. Both our families support us and what’s even better, now we are engaged.
We will soon be husband and wife. Date is set for next year around our 5 year anniversary. She has been such an inspiration in my life. Without her encouragement, I would never be a published poet nor writing these type of articles. My goals would cease to exist. She has been a true miracle and a revelation. I am proud to have met her. I want to grow old with her have children and become grandparents too. To live a long life of fulfillment and prosperity!! In closing, thank you so much Ana for introducing me to the dating app. Without you there would be no Nina or this great love story!!!!! I hope this article helps those who are lost in hope and never feel they’ll find love. You are worthy of true love. Never give up there are always opportunities abound for everyone.
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By: Jalissa Carter
Savoring a touch, so surreal.
A mind that’s connected to the image of you, like a video reel.
A beaten used book that unfolds a fairy tale beneath the pages. It amazes the hopeless romantic, the roaring fanatic.
She has a traumatic wind up heart.
Crying for love from the inside out.
To cherish and to hold onto fantasied memories.
Awaken from a series of dream experiences.
Her reality is without him.
She is surrounded by rose petals.
In the palm of her hand is it’s broken stem.
Soon after like a single dollar bill she embraces what’s real.
Erasing the figments of her imagination. The start of a solo valentines vacation. Be Queen and love your single life situation. The King for you will come soon, be patient. It’s the beginning of a chapter titled self love adoration.
Your Validation Isn’t Needed and Definitely not your Sarcasm!
By: Patrice Rivers
What does the world think of you?
Does it really matter what the validations and opinions are without thinking it through?
Never change what the world says about you
Without having to change you
I wrote this poem because the world and worldly people are always judging for no reason. We have to learn to tune out all of the negativity and negative people that always wants to put us down. I recently had an encounter with a lady (African-American) on the phone. She wanted to speak to someone and didn’t even know the person’s first name when I asked her and was a little unsure about the department she wanted to speak to. A lot of people aren’t clear to what they want or need, so I wanted to make sure that was the right department. Did you know she had the nerve to comment sarcastically “You must be new!” I told her that I have been working here for a year so I wasn’t really new. It will be two years in April as a matter of fact. She responded “Yes that’s still new” The fact that she tried to belittle me to thinking I didn’t know what I was talking about is a good reason why I try to separate myself from people like that and some women as well all because of the ignorance.
Just because I didn’t know what she was referring to doesn’t mean I don’t know how to do my job. That’s why it’s very important to remain positive and keep focused. One thing I do is silence people by not speaking to them at all! My inner peace and sanity is too important to allow people to distract me. Be careful who you talk to and deal with in life because everyone doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Don’t allow anyone to ruin your inner peace and definitely don’t allow the world to tell you who you are and what you are! Just like the lady I spoke with on the phone, she was negative and belittling and definitely an example of a major distraction!
Patrice Rivers is an author of seven books, a blogger, journalist, writer and the owner of That Riverz Gurl Brand. You can check out her website at www.patricerivers.com
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Love Is An Action Word
By: Jasi Green
When I go to sleep every night, the left side of my bed is empty. When I wake each morning, no one is there; well most times I find myself diagonally across. The point is, Sis isn’t missing any sleep. Am I looking for someone to wake up too every morning; absolutely not. One of the best things a woman can do is fall so deep in love with the woman she is, becoming or have evolved into. Self love is the best love.
Yes, I love the concept of black love but until one is whole, they are are not ready to unconditionally love someone else. Jasmin, three years ago did not have this mindset. Shoutout to my glow up!
Society has shown MEN ARE JUDGED BASED ON THEIR POTENTIAL; WOMEN ARE JUDGED BASED ON THEIR PAST PERFORMANCE. Such a narcissistic double standard.
One cannot be selfless with loving thyself first. The foundation to any great relationship, whether romantically or platonically, is self love. Self care is also essential.
My journey to self love began when I became committed to achieving goals. I had a lot of baggage to unpack, hypothetically speaking. It was not something achievable by saying, “Today I’m going to me be a better Jasmin”. That route failed many times. Your intentions are not a reflection of your actions, in such instances.
Women are natural born nurturers. We are molded to put our feelings on the back burner to care for others. The hardest part is admitting you’re accepting less than you deserve and walking away. We complain and cry instead of taking action because then we have to take accountability. Instead of seeking validation, seek self love.
Lack of self-love increases risk of suicide according to the American Association of Suicidology. The association conducted a study in 2008 which researched the impact of low self-esteem and lack of self-love and its relation to suicidal tendencies and attempts. My blog, Fall In Love With Yourself First, provides resources to those in need.
How much do you value and appreciate yourself? Love is an action word. Self love is appreciation of this action.
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Start Up information For Entrepreneurs
By: Rosalyn L Farmer
Most likely you have already identified a business idea, so now it’s time to balance it with a little reality. Does your idea have the potential to succeed? You will need to run your business idea through a validation process before you go any further.
In order for a small business to be successful, it must solve a problem, fulfill a need or offer something the market wants.
There are a number of ways you can identify this need, including research, focus groups, and even trial and error. As you explore the market, some of the questions you should answer include:
Is there a need for your anticipated products/services?
Who needs it?
Are there other companies offering similar products/services now?
What is the competition like?
How will your business fit into the market?
Don’t forget to ask yourself some questions, too, about starting a business before you take the plunge.
Make a Plan!
You need a plan in order to make your business idea a reality. A business plan is a blueprint that will guide your business from the start-up phase through establishment and eventually business growth, and it is a must-have for all new businesses.
Starting a small business doesn’t have to require a lot of money, but it will involve some initial investment as well as the ability to cover ongoing expenses before you are turning a profit. Put together a spreadsheet that estimates the one-time startup costs for your business (licenses and permits, equipment, legal fees, insurance, branding, market research, inventory, trademarking, grand opening events, property leases, etc.), as well as what you anticipate you will need to keep your business running for at least 12 months (rent, utilities, marketing and advertising, production, supplies, travel expenses, employee salaries, your own salary, etc.).
Your small business can be a sole proprietorship, a partnership, a limited liability company (LLC) or a corporation. The business entity you choose will impact many factors from your business name, to your liability, to how you file your taxes.
You may choose an initial business structure, and then reevaluate and change your structure as your business grows and needs change
Once your business is up and running, you need to start attracting clients and customers. You’ll want to start with the basics by writing a unique marketing plan. Then, explore as many small business marketing ideas as possible so you can decide how to promote your business most effectively.
Once you have completed these business start-up activities, you will have all of the most important bases covered. Keep in mind that success doesn’t happen overnight. But use the plan you’ve created to consistently work on your business, and you will increase your chances of success.
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How To Win In Business
By Rosalyn L. Farmer
Every single time someone asks me how I’ve managed to be so successful in business, I’m quick to tell them my secret. Are you ready?
It’s … consistency.
I know, it’s very simple. But just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s easy and I truly believe that’s why so many people do not have the success they want in their business. They just don’t put in the necessary work over and over again to make it grow.
Maybe you have seen the positive effects of consistency in someone’s business and want to be more consistent in your own, but you just aren’t sure how. Today I want to tell you all about how I manage to stay so consistent in my business.
Mindset is the key to success. If you are ready to make a change and go forward with determination, you can be unstoppable. I’ve seen it in my own business and many others.
Know your WHY.
Why are you doing this? What dreams do you have? What do you want your life to look like in one year, two years? Five years? This why should be strong enough to push you past the feelings you WILL get that say “I can do that later.” What makes you push through the resistance
Realize that consistent efforts will show the world that you are serious about your business and you are in it for the long haul.
Know that it plays a vital role in the perception others have on you and your business. No one wants to work with someone who is on again, off again.
Create short term goals.
One month goals and three month goals. That will keep your eye on a smaller prize that will lead to the bigger prizes that will come through your consistency.
Give it enough time.
Expect that through consistent action taken over 6-12 months that you WILL see massive results. People are watching, wondering if you’ll stick with it. Once they see that you absolutely are, they’ll start coming out of the woodwork.
Be accountable to your upline. Let them know your goals and ask them to check in with you and prod you when you aren’t doing the key steps that will build your business.
Celebrate your successes!
So many people skip right over them and move on to the next but it’s vital you celebrate and acknowledge your work and efforts. I like to reward myself when I’ve achieved a big goal. Could be anything! A new purse, a nice date night out, massage …
CELEBRATE YOU ! Be consistent and Be Great.
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Learning Self-Identity within Teens
By Patrice Rivers
There are a lot of teens who may be struggling with self-identity and is afraid because of what others may feel or think of them. Why should any teen be put in that category of having a teen identity crisis? Between the ages of 13-18, a lot of teens are looking for self-acceptance and learning more about morals, values, their sexuality or their personality to fit into the “world’s society” of how people may view them.
In today’s society the look of one’s identity may be more challenging and confusing. There are five ways for teens to build a sense of self-worth. The first is experiencing of anxiety and perfectionism according to www.mindful.org some teens expect that things they do and how they should become should be perfect, but in reality they just need to prepare for their future lives. The second thing is seeing beyond themselves can boost their self-esteem. Developing self-esteem is a major factor in teenagers. They want to feel some type of self-worth when around others and their peers. For example, if a teen doesn’t like how they look or if their weight is a little over for their age, they may feel like they aren’t worthy because of what society may view them as. They need to know that they are special and unique in their own way. The third thing is focusing on self-compassion instead of self-esteem. Teens should learn how to embrace themselves and love themselves so that when they get older, self-worth won’t be a major issue. That’s why it’s very important for teens to embrace family because certain structures, family values and morals.
Teen Identity Development is when teens define themselves in terms of values, believes and roles. They are starting to develop a sense of who they are and what they stand for. Avoiding social comparison is healthy as well but a lot of teens will face this around their peers and at school. This is something normal and is looking for plenty of ways for the world and people surrounding them to accept them. Self-comparison can lead to stress and even depression if it isn’t discussed with family members or a guidance counselor at school.
Alongside of identifying themselves, teens also go through identity issues such as seeking status symbols meaning having the latest trends or materialistic things to prove themselves to others, rebellion which a lot of teens (including myself) go through. It’s like a phase of finding themselves and that may require making their own decisions and experimenting things that may not always be healthy. Having idols are common issues as well want to look up to people and things that will give them some type of confidence, boost and motivation. Cliques areanother identity issue because a lot of teens hang out with certain groups of people just to make them feel powerful and cool.
The process of developing a teen identity has many challenges and may not always lead to the right decisions in life, but in order to find out what’s best for teens, they must venture out on their own. Every teen must develop their own sense of humor, personality and self-worth on their own while building healthy relationships, being in healthy environments and paying attention to their own behaviors.
Resources www.mindful.org and www.aspiroadventure.com
Patrice Rivers is a 9x author, journalist, freelance writer, and owner of That Riverz Gurl Brand LLC. Learn more by visiting www.thatriverzgurlbrandllc.com